It’s no secret that Millennials are”starting” life later than every generation preceding them. From starting their careers, to moving out of the house, to engagements and marriages; most of life’s important milestones are occurring well into their late 30s. How does this affect the practice of shopping for an engagement ring?
Traditionally, man meets woman, falls in love with girl, asks for permission from her parents to indicate, buys engagement ring, and asks her to marry him. With this forward thinking creation, a step has been taken away from the standard and towards a more involved approach. Since Millennials are of a more”mature” age, compared to the average age of engaged couples in the past, it can be said that they know more of what they want and don’t want. Women are expressing the need to be involved in the process so that their future fiancé can’t get it wrong!
I’ve seen everything from a couple equally and joyously involved in the selection process together hand in hand excited about their future, to a very opinionated lady on Facetime conferencing from work demanding what she wants as her passive boyfriend sits in our showroom prepared with credit card in hand. Now I am not here to pass judgment, but I will say this: this must be a mutual conclusion that you are both happy with. This new wave of couples choosing an engagement ring together warrants much debate because it can either be very right or very wrong.
There’s room for compromise. You are the traditional type of man. You need to court her and surprise her with that magical moment big reveal. She, however, is a modern woman who would love to have a say in what her ring will look like. In case you have your heart set on having her watch the ring for the first time when you open that box there’s a way to make you happy. You and your beloved can make a list of all of the things she would really like to see inside her ring. Before you set out on your own, you may also go window-shopping. Have her point out a few ideal rings. This way she feels that she has been active in the process and had her voice heard. You are happy because you are not flying blind and still get to abide by some tradition.
Create another memory of togetherness. If the previous suggestion was not hitting the mark, perhaps sharing in this moment together is the way to go. This could in reality bring you closer together. Venturing out to different jewelers to find the perfect ring for a couple may end up being another gorgeous memory in your love story. You can see her eyes light up with building excitement and anticipation as she chooses from the many choices before her.
You specify what”ideal” is. There’s no right or wrong in this momentous occasion. Only the two of you can decide what’s fantastic for you and keep it up. Forgive people who have their own opinions. After all, in the long run, it is going to be you and her writing the story of your lives together. Make sure it is one which you will want to read over and over!